cancer man and aries woman

Relationships between Aries and Cancer

Cancer, having linked his life with Aries, may become somewhat nervous and irritable, since Aries is capable of exhausting the gentle and unstable Cancer both physically and emotionally with his excessive enthusiasm of Mars.

The straightforward and somewhat reckless Aries may often feel that Cancer does not approve of his behavior.

"What do these Cancers want from me?" Aries wonders. "Forget about self-confidence and develop an inferiority complex, just to please them?"

Not necessarily. However, Cancers would feel much better if the impulsive rhythm of Mars were a little more moderate and corresponded to their own, calmer rhythm. But this will not reduce Cancer's serious fears that Aries will not lament in one voice with him (or her) "nobody-loves-me - everyone-hates-me".

Two such whiny sufferers for one couple are too too much.

Very few people know with what passion Aries men, women and children seek approval.

Among these few are Cancers, who themselves are unusually sensitive to offense.

Endowed with keen perception, they understand that Aries are not always what they seem. Thanks to such perception, pleasant and strong relations can be established between these two signs.

However, this union is more often found in business or family relationships than in love. Naturally, both love and marriage relations between Aries and Cancer are possible, it's just that the Aries-Cancer team can more often be found as relatives or employees, in a delicate professional situation of the boss-subordinate type.

Even those representatives of the Aries and Cancer signs, between whom a romantic attraction has arisen, most often meet in a work or family setting.

If the Moon-Sun aspect between their birth charts is harmonious, this combination can be surprisingly successful financially and emotionally compatible, if not, then their relationship will have many difficulties.

Aries loves to win, he needs it, he enjoys the leading role. Cancer also has nothing against victories or leadership.

Cancer is a Cardinal sign of leadership. Aries - too.

Here is a serious problem, because when there are two leaders, how to determine who to follow?

(Especially when neither one wants to give in.)

But there is a way out, if only there is a desire.

They can walk side by side, and there will be neither first nor last.

Cancer compromises more easily than Aries, so it is usually the first to offer a truce.

Aries can also try, but it will have to watch itself carefully, because one imprecise word or wrong intonation will cause Cancer to either a fit of anger or a flood of bitter tears.

So (let's hope), they headed side by side to the podium. Everything is peaceful for now, but... Cancer moves forward in zigzags, and Aries always goes straight ahead. Cancer thinks things over for a long time, uses disguise and acts cautiously. Aries does not waste time thinking, never cheats, so there is no need to talk about his caution.

Life for Aries is one huge changing state.

He is ready to break through obstacles with his forehead, even if he has to turn off the road to find them. If they are not here, he will organize a couple, because who needs a competition without obstacles?

Indeed, obstacles attract Aries like a magnet.

Constant agreement in everything bores and irritates him.

When another refuses to fight or argue, Aries is either frightened or infuriated.

He is not interested in this.

He is constantly recharged with energy from any opposition. Let only a conflict barely appear, and here Aries boldly throws down a challenge or accepts it, anticipating victory. And everything is fine if he sometimes stops to notice that next to him in the world there are other people who also feel something.

Aries does not intend to offend anyone, he is so eager to achieve his goal (including the rare, more introverted type of Sheep) that he can be reckless and thoughtless, without realizing it.

A typical Aries never hurts anyone intentionally.

And yet, he often offends people, especially the hypersensitive Cancer.

So, one of the difficulties in the relationship between Aries and Cancer is the touchiness of both.

Aries often do not even realize this weakness of theirs, because they consider themselves strong people.

Therefore, when Aries is offended, he either does not notice it, or falls into terrible anger and begins to actively defend himself.

Cancer carefully hides its sensitivity to insults, and, therefore, when it is hurt, it hides under its shell and suffers in silence, becoming extremely irritable.

If the wound is deep enough, it may even cry a little.

Let's go back for a second to astrological symbolism and imagine an excited Ram butting the hard shell of an offended Cancer, who feverishly burrows deeper and deeper into the sand on the beach.

On the beach? And why, actually. The Ram hangs out on the beach, next to the incomprehensible ocean?

This is not its element.

Likewise, Cancer would be at a loss trying to crawl up the rocky mountain slopes where Ram feels excellent.

It takes conjunction or trine aspects between their horoscopes (or a deep understanding of each other) to create mutually acceptable emotional ground for these very different astrological creatures.

Even then, although they may learn to tolerate each other and help each other grow, develop, and learn, the differences between them cannot be hidden.

It is true that Cancers may hide in a closet when their feelings are hurt, but they are usually calm and thoughtful (except when they make you laugh at their jokes).

However, Aries should not consider them completely serene, submissive and incapable of resistance. And if Aries considers them a gelatinous mass, trembling with fear, he had better not forget about the shell under which they hide. It is not recommended to knock on it too hard.

While Aries is inclined to immediately rush into an open attack, if a threat has arisen, Cancer will first try to find out as unobtrusively as possible what, actually, the matter is, develop a secret strategy and begin to act with incredible persistence. Cancer's ability to cling to your ear, finger (or concept, opinion) until he gets what he wants should never be neglected or underestimated.

Aries and Cancer have different motivations, different approaches to life and different goals. But if each of them shared their main virtues, both lives would become much richer?

This is a combination of Fire and Water, so each subconsciously feels that the other can destroy him.

Too much fire of Aries can dry up Cancer's tender feelings.

Too much water of Cancer can douse the flame of Aries' enthusiastic, brilliant hopes.

In astrology, fire represents optimism, water - pessimism. These two elements seem incompatible, but if we call pessimism - caution, we get what Aries lacks so much, and if we call optimism - faith, we get a quality that is very useful for Cancer.