gemini man and cancer woman

Gemini Man - Cancer Woman

Geminis have a keen and accurate understanding of human nature, and Cancers are very perceptive, so that together (along with Libra and Pisces) they make up a great team of detectives. It is no coincidence that almost all Geminis and Cancers love Detective Stories! (Scorpios do too, although they are more inclined to mystical murders and ghost stories.)

And yet, for all his intelligence and psychological agility, and for all her talent for drawing secrets out of people, the only riddle they seem unable to solve is themselves.

There is always something missing.

Ask a Gemini man what worries him most about a Cancer girl, and he will say, "I never know what she is thinking."

Ask a Cancer woman what worries her most about her beloved Gemini sign, and she will say, "I don't know what he wants."

This is how it is when these two first meet; it will be how it will be when they break up, in friendship or in anger, for whatever reason; and it will always be how it is if they stay together.

Her mysterious behavior, her habit of withdrawing and refusing to speak when she is hurt, will drive a Gemini into a rage that is not his natural state. Every now and then she will let him know what is on her mind, but just as often she will slam her shell shut in response to his questions, leaving him worried and helpless.

She simply feels safer when she does not give away her secrets.

Sometimes the Cancer girl will cry and pour out her fears, but even then she will not tell him the real reason for her suffering.

There is no "why" or "wherefore." The Gemini man will not rest until he has analyzed her every complaint and considered all her motives, and still her mysterious behavior will leave him with a feeling of vague uneasiness.

He will probably try to figure it out again and again.

But he may never know what she thinks about between her sobs, laughter and serenity, - except that sometimes she will open up a small corner in her heart to him, when he helps her find an old, lost childhood memory...

As for her, she would give him the Moon if she could.

A loving Cancer woman wants only to cherish, protect and lavish tenderness on her man (although his share of devotion may sharply decrease by half when their children enter her heart).

She will stuff him with food and tenderness and entertain him with a slightly mysterious "lunar" humor. But how can she prepare for him the perfect dream that will satisfy all his hunger, when the recipe for his happiness is so fickle?

The way he subtly changes every time she thinks she has figured out what he is after drives her to tears and anger. She may never understand what he wants because he doesn't know, and if he does, he will only share it with his other self.

It's not that he doesn't trust her.

But only his twin can decipher the complexities of his Mercurial dreams and distill them to a single goal.

Because the Cancer woman is so thoughtful, so emotionally receptive, she will "absorb" something of his behavior simply by being around him.

She will know all about his psychological tricks - except how to do them.

This is because they live at different speeds. She, despite her outwardly businesslike livelyness, is prescribed: slowly and carefully.

He is prescribed: quickly and tirelessly.

And it does not matter that he is one of those Geminis who seems calm and cold on the outside - he has a reactive mind, always ready for an immediate start.

This is the 2-12 Sun Sign pattern, with Gemini following Cancer.

Therefore, she secretly understands his zealous nature, through an unconscious memory of what it is like to be carefree, fickle, and free of strong emotional ties.

In fact, this memory may haunt her to the extreme - to the point of desperately clinging to security, preferably emotional, or if not, then financial.

The Gemini man half-consciously understands that she can teach him an attitude to life that he has never experienced, and because he learns quickly, his wisdom will surpass hers in many ways, but not without some growing pain.

Typical Geminis do not keep anything unnecessary - from torn-off receipt stubs and dull razor blades to connections with people who have become unnecessary. He cannot understand her need to cling to things.

Looking at the way she stockpiles canned food that would feed the whole family for months if aliens suddenly attacked, one would think that she had experienced the horrors of great poverty.

He does not understand that for Cancer, even interplanetary war is always possible. Anything can always happen, and she wants to be ready for it. The crumpled bills she keeps in a box ease her fear of a leaky roof on a rainy day sometime in the future. And the old dresses, sprinkled with mothballs, that she kept, are back in fashion, and if she cuts off the top, she will have a new wardrobe of evening skirts without spending a single one of those crumpled bills.

Likewise, she is not as hasty as he is in leaving old friends and connections.

The Gemini's carelessness in human relations puzzles Cancer. Long-standing relationships give her a soothing sense of the past - that yesterday when the world was young, cheerful, reliable and safe.

She feels something similar in the deeper relationships called love.

The love of the "moon" girl is not based on causality or logic.

She cannot destroy it.

Others can drive away love with desire, will, anger, speak it out or throw it away.

Her love is nurtured for many years, even if she has to sew patches on worn-out places.

This is one of the most valuable lessons that her heart can teach his mind.

You can also meet an inconstant Cancer girl, but do not believe her: this is a pose.

Somewhere under the hard crab shell lurks an old, worn-out love, gently darned and neatly folded, and she longingly hopes that this love will again come into fashion and will be needed again. The fictional image of a sentimental prostitute who "babes" her clients is a portrait of a haunted "moon" woman who still, as usual, waits for him to return.

When a Gemini man is on a romantic vacation, he is unable to be kept in one place, and the baggage of memories of past loves slows him down.

He travels light.

He does not belong to any one place or any one person: Even to his relatives.

He knows that they love him, but still feels a little apart, and not only from them - from the whole world.

Until he finds a woman who knows how to "cling" to his heart. Clinging is Cancer's special talent, but her crab-like possessiveness will scare him away, unless she disguises it as tender tolerance and expands it to give him space and the appearance of freedom. Then it will attract and warm him when he is cold and lonely.

If she learns to let him go, trusting in love, she will discover that with this man, free can mean faithful .

In their sexual relationship, there may be less of the purely physical than of the passion of the spirit and some emotional eroticism. Her exceptional tenderness and vivid imagination will be a good balance for his soft touches and sensitive sexual nature.

When they physically experience their love, they can find in each other that missing something that they are always looking for, and become one... for brief moments. Since she needs continuous and tangible proof that she is truly loved and desired, his airy embraces can be embarrassing to her.

She wants him to hold her tighter (and longer) - only then can she be sure...

Their most perfect sexual union can be during the full moon, when the "moon" woman seems to receive a strange magnetic power to bring him back from all his dreams to the mystery of their love - his deepest dream.

He may be irritated by her old economic habits. She will ask: "Do you know what it is to be poor?

It's a nightmare. If you continue to scatter money, you will know it. Have you ever been told that waste leads to poverty?"

But he will simply shrug and answer like the Gemini archetype Mike Todd: "I will never know. I have been broke, but I have never been poor. Brokenness is temporary. Poor is a state of mind."

A "Moon" woman will understand him better than he supposes: no matter how he appears to the world, to himself he is forever a little boy who has somehow magically managed to get an airplane into the sky.

And now, from time to time, he amuses himself with sudden dives and spins, becomes enchanted by finding a more beautiful cloud, sunrise or sunset... all the while excitedly aware that the great universe and its glittering galaxies lie, temptingly unexplored, before him... and beckon.

If she truly loves him, she will be ready to pack up and hit the road when his free spirit becomes restless.

And she will be able to turn every stop, even the shortest one, into a warm, cozy and nice refuge, as only a Cancer woman can do.

She manages to turn any new place into a garden, filled with the flowers of tradition. And this is exactly what he needs - the opportunity to travel, but always to return home.

A Gemini man can linger in the sky after sunset, until the moon has risen, to try to uncover the secret of his Cancer beloved.

And wouldn't it be funny if her secret turned out to be this: in a changing world of changing truths that peek out for a moment and then hide again behind the clouds of running time, each soul must find its other half, in order to know - in order to understand - in order to be!

The same secret as his own.